[{"data":1,"prerenderedAt":324},["ShallowReactive",2],{"blog-en-track-money-lent-to-friends":3},{"post":4,"related":306,"translations":319},{"id":5,"title":6,"body":7,"date":282,"description":283,"extension":284,"icon":285,"key":286,"keywords":287,"meta":294,"navigation":295,"path":296,"seo":297,"slug":298,"stem":299,"tags":300,"__hash__":304,"minutes":305},"blog/blog/en/track-money-lent-to-friends.md","Money Lent, Money Borrowed: Keep Track Without the Awkwardness",{"type":8,"value":9,"toc":270},"minimark",[10,14,18,21,26,29,32,35,39,47,69,72,75,79,85,96,99,103,114,121,138,141,145,148,174,177,181,188,195,202,206,209,234,237,241,244,247],[11,12,6],"h1",{"id":13},"money-lent-money-borrowed-keep-track-without-the-awkwardness",[15,16,17],"p",{},"\"Can I borrow fifty? I'll have it back next week.\" It happens all the time, between friends, in families, in shared flats. Usually it works out fine. But sometimes a week turns into a month, and before long nobody is quite sure how much is still outstanding. And bringing it up feels petty.",[15,19,20],{},"The problem is rarely a lack of goodwill. It's a lack of clarity. This post shows how to keep track of money lent or borrowed so it never gets awkward in the first place.",[22,23,25],"h2",{"id":24},"why-ill-remember-doesnt-work","Why \"I'll remember\" doesn't work",[15,27,28],{},"Memory is surprisingly unreliable when it comes to money, and on both sides. The person who lent tends to remember a bigger number. The person who borrowed tends to remember a smaller one. Nobody is lying. It's just human.",[15,30,31],{},"Small amounts also add up. A cinema ticket covered here, the flat's groceries there, €20 chipped in towards a birthday present. None of it is worth mentioning on its own. Together it's quickly €150 that nobody has a clear picture of.",[15,33,34],{},"And whoever is unsure is less likely to say anything. So the uncertainty isn't just a maths problem. It's the real source of the awkwardness.",[22,36,38],{"id":37},"note-who-owes-what-and-since-when","Note who owes what, and since when",[15,40,41,42,46],{},"The fix is unglamorous: ",[43,44,45],"strong",{},"write it down as soon as the money moves."," Not at the end of the month, not \"when it comes up again\", but right away. Three details are enough:",[48,49,50,57,63],"ul",{},[51,52,53,56],"li",{},[43,54,55],{},"Who?"," The person's name.",[51,58,59,62],{},[43,60,61],{},"How much?"," The exact amount.",[51,64,65,68],{},[43,66,67],{},"When, and what for?"," The date and a short reason, like \"flat deposit\" or \"Barcelona flight\".",[15,70,71],{},"The reason sounds like a detail, but it's gold. Three months from now, both sides will remember \"the money for the flight\" far better than \"the €180 from July\".",[15,73,74],{},"Note down borrowed money too, not just lent money. This isn't about keeping score on other people. It's about an honest picture, in both directions.",[22,76,78],{"id":77},"agree-a-simple-repayment-plan","Agree a simple repayment plan",[15,80,81,82],{},"For small amounts, \"by the end of the month\" is plenty. For anything bigger, a short, clear plan helps. It doesn't have to be formal, but it should include two things: ",[43,83,84],{},"an amount per payment and a date.",[15,86,87,88,91,92,95],{},"An example: a new flatmate, Lena, can't cover the deposit in one go and is lent ",[43,89,90],{},"€600",". The agreement: ",[43,93,94],{},"€100 a month, on the first of each month",", starting in December. By the end of May, it's all paid back.",[15,97,98],{},"The nice thing about a plan like this is that it takes the pressure off both sides. Lena knows what's due and when. The lender doesn't have to wonder whether it's okay to ask yet. The agreement does the asking.",[22,100,102],{"id":101},"keep-track-of-partial-repayments","Keep track of partial repayments",[15,104,105,106,109,110,113],{},"Plans are great. Real life sometimes has other ideas. In February, Lena gets a big energy bill and sends only ",[43,107,108],{},"€50"," instead of €100. In March, she makes up for it with ",[43,111,112],{},"€150",".",[15,115,116,117,120],{},"This is exactly where things get muddled if nobody writes them down. So: ",[43,118,119],{},"log every repayment separately",", with date and amount. That way, what's left is always clear:",[48,122,123,126,129,132,135],{},[51,124,125],{},"Start: €600",[51,127,128],{},"December: –€100 → €500 left",[51,130,131],{},"January: –€100 → €400 left",[51,133,134],{},"February: –€50 → €350 left",[51,136,137],{},"March: –€150 → €200 left",[15,139,140],{},"With a list like this, there's no debate about whether it's \"still 200 or already 150\". And if Lena asks, a clear answer takes ten seconds.",[22,142,144],{"id":143},"talk-about-it-kindly","Talk about it kindly",[15,146,147],{},"Writing it down is the easy part. Bringing it up is harder for most people. A few things help:",[48,149,150,156,162,168],{},[51,151,152,155],{},[43,153,154],{},"Early and casual beats late and heavy."," \"Hey, December's payment is still open, right?\" lands very differently from a conversation after three months of silence.",[51,157,158,161],{},[43,159,160],{},"Stick to the facts."," \"My list says there's €200 left\" is neutral. \"Nothing ever comes back\" is an accusation.",[51,163,164,167],{},[43,165,166],{},"Be understanding."," If money is tight right now, shrink or move a payment rather than insisting on the original plan.",[51,169,170,173],{},[43,171,172],{},"Say the good stuff too."," \"Thanks for being so reliable with this\" costs nothing and makes the next payment easier.",[15,175,176],{},"And on the borrowing side: a message the day before saying \"I can only manage half this month\" does more for trust than any on-time payment. Silence is what damages friendships, not a smaller instalment.",[22,178,180],{"id":179},"how-lent-and-borrowed-money-shows-up-in-net-worth","How lent and borrowed money shows up in net worth",[15,182,183,184,187],{},"One thing people often overlook: lent money isn't gone. It's a ",[43,185,186],{},"receivable",": money that still belongs to the lender but is sitting somewhere else for now. The €600 for Lena's deposit haven't vanished from the lender's net worth. They're just not in the account.",[15,189,190,191,194],{},"The other way round, borrowed money is a ",[43,192,193],{},"liability",", just like a credit card balance or a loan. It makes the account look fuller than the finances really are.",[15,196,197,198,201],{},"So looking only at the balance gives a skewed picture. Counting what is owed in both directions shows the real ",[43,199,200],{},"net worth",", and how it changes with every repayment.",[22,203,205],{"id":204},"when-to-put-it-in-writing","When to put it in writing",[15,207,208],{},"Nobody needs a contract for €30 between friends. Beyond a certain amount, though, a short written agreement isn't a sign of distrust. It's fairness, for both sides. It makes sense, for example:",[48,210,211,217,223,229],{},[51,212,213,216],{},[43,214,215],{},"for larger sums",", say from a few hundred or a few thousand euros,",[51,218,219,222],{},[43,220,221],{},"for longer repayment periods"," that run over many months,",[51,224,225,228],{},[43,226,227],{},"within the family",", so it's clear later on, for instance when an estate is settled, whether it was a loan or a gift,",[51,230,231],{},[43,232,233],{},"when interest is involved.",[15,235,236],{},"A simple personal loan agreement lists both names, the amount, the date the money was handed over, the repayment plan and any interest, signed by both. For large amounts within a family, a quick chat with a tax adviser can be worth it too.",[22,238,240],{"id":239},"the-bottom-line","The bottom line",[15,242,243],{},"Money between people who like each other rarely gets awkward because of the amount. It gets awkward because of the uncertainty. Note down right away who owes what, agree a simple plan for bigger sums, log every partial payment and talk about it early and kindly. That way, lending money stays what it should be: a favour between friends, not a sore spot.",[245,246],"hr",{},[15,248,249,256,257,263,264,269],{},[250,251,253],"a",{"href":252},"/en/features",[43,254,255],{},"Money Koi"," helps with an overview of money lent or borrowed, plus reminders and payoff calculators for loans. Liabilities count towards net worth, and Analytics in Pro shows how it develops over time. 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