Talk about the numbers
Look at both incomes and all shared costs together, once. Most money arguments are really about unspoken assumptions.
Fair split for couples
50/50 sounds fair – until one partner earns a lot more. Enter both incomes and the shared costs, and compare three fair ways to split them.
Net incomes per month
Net income per month
Net income per month
Everything paid together – change, remove or add as needed.
Rent or mortgage
Energy & utilities
Groceries
Internet & TV
Household insurance
| Model | Partner 1 pays | Partner 2 pays | Partner 1 keeps | Partner 2 keeps |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| 50 / 50 | €990 | €990 | €2,010 | €1,010 |
| By income | €1,188 | €792 | €1,812 | €1,208 |
| Equal leftover | €1,490 | €490 | €1,510 | €1,510 |
Make it work
Look at both incomes and all shared costs together, once. Most money arguments are really about unspoken assumptions.
Whatever the model, each partner keeps an amount to spend without explaining. It prevents a lot of small resentments.
Above a set amount – say €200 – shared purchases get a quick check-in first. Below it, nobody needs to ask.
A new job, a child, a move: when life changes, the fair split does too. A yearly check keeps it fair for both.

Track shared and personal spending in Money Koi – each partner on their own phone, nothing uploaded to anyone's cloud.